Romance Love And Relationships: January 2008

Aaaah, if only relationships were as easy as they were portrayed in the movies! . Instead, you realize that in order for your relationships to work, you need to pay attention to them and bring a skill set that often has to be learned. Additionally, even with this, there will be ups and downs.
In the American society, I’ve noticed that the concept of chivalry has a mixed review. For many women, the idea of having a door held open or a man standing when she enters a room is still very romantic. Other women don’t expect, nor want, to feel a sense of not being equal, and so being treated this way would be annoying.
In the area of gender roles, certainly things have equalized out. Due to the economy, it is now necessary, in most families for both the man and woman work. And, it is far more typical to see men involved in child rearing. If you're a single parent, looking for romance in your life, go to:

Online dating has become very popular these days, I’ve watched my friends fall prey to Internet dating delusions (painful ones at that); I read about them (on the Internet of course), and I’ve even seen television programs about them. Somehow or another people have taken their innate abilities to fool themselves and others when it comes to romance (which is different from love, I think) and transferred them seamlessly to the Internet. If you would like to start a new friendship, until you get to know each other better, visit:

Now, I’m not going to say that all relationships established through online dating or chatting are inherently delusional, but gosh there are a lot of pitfalls. It seems to be sooooo easy to think you’re in love when you don’t actually have to deal with a person in the flesh. Face to face human contact involves a whole host of complications that online chatting doesn’t, such as facial expression, tone of voice, gestures, and even "vibe." When you meet someone online, you meet only those parts of the person that he or she chooses to reveal.
Most people, when they fall in love, eventually want the rest of the package. And therein lies the rub. While we’re in the Aquarian territory of "virtual" relating, Neptune kicks into gear. It attaches its fantasies and its inherent confusions onto the virtual lover, and finds itself entirely unprepared for reality. It deceives by making its willing victims believe they know everything about a person because they feel they know the person’s "true" insides.
We probably ought to remember that online relationships are imaginary until proven otherwise, that no one is perfect even if he or she says really wonderful things online, that everyone wants escape and the Internet provides it and that there is no real substitute for the complexities of flesh-and-blood relating. We ought to.
Until then, I suppose, we’ll keep thinking we’re falling in love with people we haven’t met or don’t know nearly as well as we think, and a lot of us will keep learning that we were traveling down a garden path in the process.
But maybe you disagree. Maybe online romance has enriched your life or worked out wonderfully. Maybe you have entirely different take on online dating. If so, feel free to weigh in.
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